I'm not moving anywhere...yet. I have been contemplating it though.
But, I am scared.
Because any move that I do, it won't be down the street. It is going to be a different state, a different city. The last time I did that it was to go away to college in NYC. And somehow that seemed "safe". Safe because I was moving under the guise of school, with the knowledge that I will meet new people and learn the city along with other newbies like myself.
If I move this time around, it won't be anything like that. I would be moving to an unfamiliar place, with unfamiliar people, and possibly not a single person I would already know.
I happened to read this article in Cosmopolitan magazine last week that hit me right where I needed to. It is a 3 part series, so I am curious to see part 2 and 3, but it came at a time when I was already contemplating a similar change.
I have an idea of where I might want to go and this is the most serious thought I have ever given to moving away from the Northeast. I just don't know if I can do it.
The pros include being able to start fresh and just be myself, without my safety net. I will move away from a place that while I love my family/friends here, has never truly felt like the place I wanted to settle.
The cons...well, I'd be leaving my family and friends. Friends who are getting married and having babies and I fear I will miss out. That my best friend's children won't know who I am. I'd be moving away from my parents. My parents who I can call when I have an issue with a furnace or my car. That safety net will be gone.
GAH. I just don't know.
When I googled "moving to a new city" the results were endless. I did find THIS though and it seemed to give me some good ideas of what to think about before moving.
Has anyone ever moved to a new city with no boyfriend, family, or job as the reason? If so- any tips or advice on how to decide?
I haven't moved under these criteria. Sound scary! =( I have only moved because of family or school - and that was plenty for me. Why do you want to move? Are you just looking for a change? Which, by the way, is a totally valid reason to move. =)
ReplyDeleteGood luck!
I saw your comment on my post today about moving back home to Virginia and I just HAD To come find the post you wrote! I can tell you from experience that its really, really scary. When my parents dropped my off in Knoxville, I didn't know a soul. When I moved to Nashville, I only knew about 2 people. I can honestly say it was both the best and scariest thing I have ever done for myself.
ReplyDeleteI'm a big believer in what I like to call 'touchstones' - those little nudges of feelings, intuition, if you will. Mine kept putting Virginia on my mind and ultimately, that was where I needed to go.
This may be a random offer, but if you ever want to 'talk it out', feel free to email me. Been there, done that!